The art of speaking
The art of speaking is seemingly the skill of almost every person. However the ability to speak, which will meet the interest of the listener, is not that common. We often hear someone saying something aimlessly, in a monotonous or even irritating way. Sometimes it is simply an uninteresting topic, and sometimes quite the opposite, the topic is extremely interesting, but given in an uninteresting way. Here are tips on how to speak to listen to us:
Choose your topic carefully
If you have a passion in which you feel totally at ease, do not expect that you will be equally interesting, let’s say, for your girlfriend with completely different interests. For example, if you are passionate about studio recording techniques, remember that for 90% people this subject will be technical gibberish. Interestingly, even lecturers or teachers do not always deal with the problem of choosing a topic for the listener. Some of them clumsily tell their listeners about their private experiences during classes. However others will neatly and nicely connect some private anecdote with any topic.
If you’re telling about a movie, series or book, or even an event, try not to talk longer than the movie itself, etc.
Try to catch only a few of the most colorful scenes, leave an understatement.
Read a lot
Often, when we speak, it turns out that we lack words, or we have problems with the correct construction of a compound sentence, and in our own language. Reading will increase your vocabulary and formulate thoughts much easier. Do not limit yourself to banal terms, use sophisticated vocabulary. If you want to describe in a few sentences your last vacation or trip, forget the terms “it was fun” or “I really had a great time!”. Instead od that try to recall your true feelings or reflections regarding this time.
Contrary to appearances, the correct diction is not found in too many average people. In addition, the more shy and unaserty a person is, the more likely he is to speak indistinctly. Do not be afraid to train the muscles of the tongue and lips, which are most responsible for understandable pronunciation. From time to time, for a joke try to say any sentences to exaggeration clearly.
Adapt the language to the listeners and the place where you are
If you speak in public or meet friends from another city, it will probably be a bit tiring for them to listen to your regionalism and accent. In addition, a foreign accent can distract you from the content you speak. Listening to you, someone may think “but they are talking funny here” instead of listening to WHAT you are saying. And vice versa – if you are in a region with characteristic speech, surrounded by “natives”, authenticate your statements by speaking in a manner specific to the place. However, the surest way is always to use the generally accepted language, which is used, for example, by TV announcers.